To what extremes would you go for those you love? I know that all of us would want to say we would do anything and that is a good answer. I know that I have basically put my life on hold at times for my children, and when I was married, I always put my ex's needs first. But as I think on this, I am left with this question--is this always a good thing. By my willingness to move the earth for my children, am I instead doing them a disservice? Am I depriving them of a chance to develop their own wings and fly? I think that there is a chance that I do too much. Now in a real crisis, I know I will be there, but are there times when I should just say, you have my support but you need to figure this out for yourself. That probably is one of the hardest things to do, but I think that they need to learn to be independent of me, but know that I am there for the extreme crisis.