Now, I want you to understand that the road that I traveled was not easy and not without tears and heartache. Often, I didn't know how I was going to manage from one day to the next, but I did. I realized that trouble is a part of life--no one is exempt. With my losses, I have found a formula that works for me. First of all, I have to take care of me--eat, get enough sleep, and get out and exercise. Second, realize that there are givens in life David Richo, a former Catholic priest in Boston then became a psychologist and turned Zen, has come up with five: “The Givens of Life and Things We Cannot Change”
1. Everything changes and ends
2. Suffering is part of growth
3. Things do not always go according to plan
4. Things are not always fair
5. People are not loving and loyal all the time
Third, I allowed myself to express my emotions, I cried, I was angry, I ranted. Then I remember the good things about the reason that I was grieving, and being the artistic person that I am I made a memory book of the good things. Fifth, and probably the hardest, I didn't dwell on the loss, but made a conscious effort to move on. If I have done a wrong, I ask for forgiveness from God and if possible that person. Above all I have my faith in God who I know stands beside me always no matter what I am going through. Looking back, my life has been enriched through my losses.